Barry Diller's Convenient Marriage Examined

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This is from Confessions of A Gay Anchorman, TV personality Charles Dabney-Perez's new book:

"In 2001, Barry Diller married fashion designer Diane von Furstenberg, a marriage that some reported was an attempt to put to bed rumors of his homosexuality.

"Though he and Ms. von Furstenberg have reportedly been close friends for years, to me, it was just more evidence of the lengths to which someone will go, even someone as big and bombastic and egotistical as Barry Diller, to find acceptance and validation.

"Today, they reportedly live in different Manhattan apartments but do take some vacations together. Good for them. Whatever works.

"But why does this matter? Who cares if Barry Diller doesn't want to come out or admit that there's any reason to come out or acknowledge that a gay community even exists? Why should I care? Why should anybody care?

"Well, the answer is simple: it matters because Barry Diller is one of the most high-profile businessmen in America. When Barry Diller, who like Anderson Cooper, cloaks himself in shame, it gets on all of us."

Hmm. Agreed?


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Reedenriten
Reedenriten

Correct me if I'm wrong, but weren't there many interviews and articles about Barry Diller being the first openly gay executive in Hollywood back in the 80's or 90's (some he appeared in)?When did he do an about face? He was the first TV image of a genuine gay daddy I"d ever seen.

MarkyMark
MarkyMark

I've always assumed that he found a marriage of convenience mandatory for business reasons, as he found himself mixing socially for business purposes in the rarefied atmosphere of global billionaires, where glittering spouses are a mandatory accessory.

Yarnart
Yarnart

The old "Everybody knows" argument. Well, then if everybody knows, why can't he say it?

Besides, everybody DOESN'T know. There were people who, before she came out, thought Rosie O'Donnell was in love with Tom Cruise. And the same argument was floating around. "Everybody knows." Thank God Rosie ignored that.

And there are plenty of people who hang out in Fire Island and even have private parties there, but if you asked "Are you gay?" on the record, they would blanche and run the other way. Plenty of them!

Stop making excuses.

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

Again, I implore you to READ. Nowhere did I say, "everybody knows." What I did say, was that, "Everyone WHO CARES to know, knows." Maybe I've just gotta get out of New York. And we're not talking about some random queen on Fire Island; we're talking about Barry Diller. Don't confuse the argument. Or rather, just stick to backing your lame arguments with Rosie O'Donnell related anecdotes. It's immensely cerebral.

timmmyk
timmmyk

Also, bullshit about avoiding inheritance taxes is lame and unconvincing since inheritance taxes have been dwindling for over a decade and being the offspring of a spouse has little to do with it anyway - the tax bracket remains relatively steadfast at high levels of wealth after any exemptions and at the level of wealth that Diller has accumulated - estimated to be OVER $1billion - it makes little difference between between being fabulously wealthy due to inheritance and insanely fabulously wealthy.

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

Ahhhh. You ate Chicken Pot Pie growing up, didn't you?

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

Obviously you have no knowledge of or experience in moving money around to diffuse, protect and preserve. Beyond that, I'm not going to even bother rebutting your simplistic and dim view of how estate preservation and generational wealth planning works. I mean, REALLY? Save me Jebus.

timmmyk
timmmyk

Oh and YOU do? As a matter of fact I do have considerable knowledge because of MY personal experience. You think you can just spout off and expect anyone else to defer to an idiot because you want to get your little voice out there? You are personally offended and caught up defending yourself, not your idiotically misinformed position because you are deluded. "Everyone WHO CARES to know, knows."? What kind of specious nonsense is that supposed to be? A completely unquantifiable and unqualifiable statement which you have repeated. Give it up, loser.

Scruff712
Scruff712

My problem isn't when they're in the closet. It's that point after all the years of the denials, when they finally come out and they act like they invented being gay. (aka elton, rosie, whomever's next)

Musto
Musto

My "Could you rephrase that in English?" was directed at Franco.

If what your incoherent post was trying to ask is whether I'd be "outing" people if I weren't a supposed stereotype:

Um, yes. I believe in the truth. And I'd still be out because it's very hard for me to lie.

franco
franco

OUT? Where you ever in?

I'm trying hard to understand what the driving force is for people such as yourself and Perez with this 'outing' obsession.

One's sexual preference constitutes but a small percentage of one's whole being.

Your self appointed, limiting, 'be all and end all gay label' shouldn't be projected at others.

I hope that's coherent enough for you.

CIAO!!!

Van
Van

"Diller does not hide who he is". Bullshit! He's closeted for the public eye.

He and Diane had a big wedding where big names were assembled to give quotes to the press about how deeply in love they were.

"Kinda sweet."

Uh huh.

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

And, it is, "kinda sweet." This man is not stupid. I can only assume that he knew that he'd be lambasted for getting "married" when his lifestyle is as well documented as it is. In an age where people easily forget about others, its nice to see someone who might have been unable to have a biological child, adopt one as his own. He clearly loves these kids enough to endure immense ridicule, all in the hopes of making sure they are provided for once he's gone. I concede that every account I've read of this man paints him as a polarizing figure; by the same token they also show him to be a man who's fiercely loyal to those he cherishes.Sure, I might be naive, but having not met the man, I prefer to reserve any judgement and give him the benefit of the doubt.

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

I qualified my statement with "at this point and time, at least." Docking his boat on Fire Island and his well-publicized Thanksgiving romp don't necessarily lend themselves to intentional concealment. Especially when applied to the fact that this man is a media/internet mogul - he knows the velocity at which such banal information travels.Everybody who cares to know, knows; with the exception of some housewife in a flyover state who sees a picture of Diller and DVF in US weekly, Diller's sexuality is no secret. Sure, a few years ago some questionable soundbites might have come out of that "wedding." That being said, if saying I'm madly in love with Ann B Davis would prevent Uncle Sam from taking money from the person whom I want to leave my estate to, I'd yell it from the rooftops. Hell, I'd yell it in front of Sam the Butcher.

Musto
Musto

Huh? Could you rephrase that in English, please?

Mrmyeah
Mrmyeah

Diller does not hide who he is (at this point in time, at least). The whole reason he "married" DVF was in an attempt to circumvent inheritance taxes on his estate, which apparently, he intends to bequeath to DVF's son Alex (of whom he is apparently quite, quite fond). Kinda sweet, really. Live and let live. ;)

franco
franco

Something to ponder.

Would you MM and just to name another... say Perez Hilton, be on this tiresome, endless, obsessive 'outing' crusade if both were unquestionably the obvious, walking, talking, gay stereotype???

Musto
Musto

You're an asswipe, as witnessed by your screen name.I've written about Barry Diller for YEARS, long before this book (which by the way, mentions me negatively, so I'm hardly self-promoting by pushing it. I just agree with most of its precepts).You're so full of moronic misinformation.And my being out has made a difference to many people, who've told me so.If Diller wasn't in a closety marriage , it could be even more of a positive step. WAY more.

timmmyk
timmmyk

ANYBODY who capitalizes on their prominence and does not disclose the basic facts of their life is an untrustworthy shit. I could care less if they are call themselves or are referred to as a role model or not. Twits can carp on the sidelines and apologize all they want for seekers of fame and fortune but they, by their dishonesty, ultimately cause the rest of us to be marginalized because they public STILL does not (and does not want to) see us in the positions they have come to trust, respect and even rely on. If you want to be someone the world has to contend with you owe it to your community - the one you live, prosper, utilize the fruits of and exalt in when not in the public's eye, to stand up and be counted.

Libby
Libby

"His responsibility is not to become the story."

Except for writing memoirs and talking about his dead brother etc etc.

So tired of the double standard!

Why don't you complain when straight anchors talk about their private lives if it's so offensive to you?

Poopie Head
Poopie Head

Musto, you are such a fuckin shameless self-promoter. If your name wasn't on this rag you wouldn't give a shit. Big deal Barry Diller is a fag. So are you and the fact that you are "out" makes the world yawn and shrug it shoulders. Take the stick out of your butt and join the 21st century. --from one self-loving, out and proud FAG.

Bibb
Bibb

Isn't this supposed to be a post about Barry Diller?

Glamor
Glamor

Why should Anderson Cooper announce his sexuality to the the world? to please who exactly? He knows we know he's gay. As a reporter, his responsibility is to report the stories, not become the story. I admire his reporting on issues of concern to gays and thank him for that. Charles Perez had a second-rate news career, a horrible talkshow that seemed to steal every idea from Rikki Lake, and is now trying to peddle a book that I'll only read when my local library runs out of interesting material.

Jonster
Jonster

Something tells me if Charles Perez's life had turned out differently, he wasn't outed, and his talk show went on to Oprah-like numbers, and he was rich . . . he'd still be cloaking himself in shame

timmmyk
timmmyk

I have a story about Malcolm Forbes - I once walked into the Spike in I think 1987-1988 just after the 10PM opening and was alone in the bar except for Forbes, clad neck to toe in black leather motorcycle gear. The dipshit bartender was fawning all over him and since there was no other bartender in sight, I sidled up and ordered a beer. Forbes obviously mistook me for a hustler (apparently because I was such hot young street trash) and announced that, "You're 'shit, I could have you, I could have you killed, you're shit, I could have you, I could have you killed, you're shit, I could have you killed, you're shit.' I grabbed my beer and strolled away from the miserable old psycho bitch. What a lovely encounter. This was at the exact same time Liz Smith was prattling on with planted stories about his fake relationship with Elizabeth Taylor. I've had nothing but contempt for that self loathing cunt since.

Jonster
Jonster

OMG. I'd heard he hung out there. What a story!!!

timmmyk
timmmyk

Totally unprovoked and mystifying to me at the time - I literally just walked into the place and ordered a beer. I was walking around the back of the bar asking myself what I did to enrage the old queen and it took me a few minutes to realize who it was and what it mistook me for. Forbes may as well have been spitting acid at me.

Guest
Guest

"Cloaks himself in shame"? Just because someone doesn't discuss their private life in public doesn't mean they are ashamed of anything. Stop projecting your own shame on others. And stop expecting every gay celebrity to be a role model. That's not their job.

Abel
Abel

It seems to me as though Anderson Cooper is not hiding anything, certainly not 'cloaking his shame.' He's obviously partnered, socializes in public with his partner and doesn't seem to lead a life of subterfuge. The fact that he doesn't present himself as a gay man on television has more to do with professionalism than shame. A certain amount of detachment is called for in his position.

Tony
Tony

So...exactly why is it that we should ever have heard of Meredith Brokaw? Or know that Diane Sawyer is married to Mike Nichols? Or have coverage of the dating life of Katie Couric? Or...let's get less 'journalist-y'...know how many wives Larry King has had so far?

maggierant
maggierant

i can't say i love when anderson cooper says "they" when he talks about gay people. almost as much as i didn't love when he and ellen where having a conversation and she referred to being queer as a "lifestyle". but you know, i'm funny that way.

Gigi
Gigi

I don't get this marriage at all! But Diane likes the gays. She was formerly marired to Prince Egon.

Mac
Mac

At least Diane is age appropriate.

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