I Had The Most Horribly Fabulous Friday Night In History

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Or maybe it was the most fabulously horrible Friday night in history.

In either case, I definitely need a cancel-ectomy.

Let me explain.

A friend emailed me last Monday to say that he missed me so desperately and would love to cook me dinner anytime that week.

He was begging. He even asked if I have any food allergies.

I immediately replied, "OK, how about Friday?" But he didn't respond!

Two days later, I emailed him, "Please let me know if Friday's OK, so I can make other plans."

Again, not a word! What a rude asshole! It was his idea! I made other plans.

Fortunately, there was a backup in motion because another friend was urging me to come with her to a gallery show on Friday.

We agreed that I would contact her that day if I wanted to go and we'd do so.

On Friday, I emailed her. I texted her. No answer. Huh?

Fifteen minutes before the gallery show was over, she finally shot back, "Sorry, I was in Brooklyn all day and didn't charge my phone. Just got home. Oh, well. Hope you went. Let's definitely see the movie."

What movie? And by the way, no way!

By now, I was ready for a straitjacket, but I knew for sure that two other friends ("Jeff" and "Fred") were going to be at a certain gay lounge at 11 and then we'd all go to a dance club at 11:30.

I obediently went to the lounge at 11:03. I called Jeff and asked, "Are you in here?" "No," he said. "Fred canceled. But we'll all meet at [the dance club]."

Oy. I rode around in circles for 20 minutes, then dragged my ass to the dance club.

Turned out Jeff was there, but not Fred. We really couldn't go in without Fred, since the whole point was to take him and some boyfriend of his in and show them a good time.

I waited till 11:38, by which point I was so over it I momentarily forgot about the dinner and the gallery-show debacles. There was no word from Fred.

"Please don't stand in front of the police station, Michael," said a security guard as I dutifully waited. "They get mad." At least he knew my name.

I went far away from the station, in fact. Amazed at having been stood up four times in one night, I rode off to the Village.

So why was this fabulous?

Because I didn't really want to do any of these things!!

I thought I was doing them a favor!



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20 comments
Amber
Amber

they sound annoying.....wonder if they're reading this?

freddiemessina
freddiemessina

The more advanced communication technology becomes, the worse people manners become. It turns people into the worst kind of flakes. Ironically, these are usually the same people who lose their shit if they lose or break their "smartphones".

Michael Shane
Michael Shane

glad to see people who are way more importante than me have the same problem

Savannah Montgomery
Savannah Montgomery

What galls me is, they are "shocked!" when you call them on the carpet for their bad behavior...as in "why are you getting soo bent out of shape?"

Melinda9
Melinda9

That was a day for the record books. You are a good friend.

Jazzper
Jazzper

I love the "Hope you went" bit. SHE'S the one who wanted to go and tried to corral you to go with her. Why would you have just gone on your own? The gall.

Guest
Guest

And I thought it was only straight playerish guys that engaged in this all-too-typical rude behavior. And it's not limited to the young, either. Thanks for posting.

Musto
Musto

PS: Fred did show up a few minutes later, but I was gone by then. And the dinner freak STILL hasn't gotten back to me.

anonTWO
anonTWO

Flaky friends are the worse. There is no excuse for this if you are over the age 16.Phone is uncharged? Fish a quarter or two out of the bottom of your handbag to use a payphone or BORROW someone ELSE's cellphone to make that call saying "I can't make it, sorry".Flaky friends and flaky potential employers. I've been interviewing this past month and not ONE of the people I have met with has bothered to send me an email saying " we are moving with another candidate, etc".And I thought I was rude!

Rob
Rob

People are awful theses days. Communication has gone down the toilet.

Chrisdanielssf
Chrisdanielssf

Amazing how blatant people are shopping for a better time and lying about batterys and such....it's why I always and only meet people at stuff I already want to go and do...but while you were doing Good Works, they were only frantically trying to plug a dyke if only their feverish little brains could have settled on one out of the many!!! At least one got a blog bit out of it!

Musto
Musto

By the way, I'm on a panel with David Denby and other critics tonight at 7PM at the Strand bookstore. We'll be discussing the Oscar films. Don't stand me up!

Wetherby
Wetherby

Sounds like all new friends are in order.

Ron Mwangaguhunga
Ron Mwangaguhunga

I wonder: Is it Mercury in Retrograde? My best friend and I have been just missing each other for the last week

Wendy Lou Who
Wendy Lou Who

Civilty and good manners have gone by the wayside due to technologly. I never stand people up and I am never late. I am also old-ish.

Wetherby
Wetherby

I never understood people who start a plan in motion and then can't follow it through or don't even look at their emails to see if you responded to their invitation! It's the height of moronic rudeness. Sounds druggie, perhaps.

Rimshot
Rimshot

An amazing story! The douchery never ceases to amaze.

anonTWO
anonTWO

I can't make it, MM. I have to work.

Melinda9
Melinda9

I checked that site Is Mercury in Retrograde and it says no - 19 days till the next retrograde.

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