Whitney Houston's Lesbianism: Let's Discuss

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Not surprisingly, the one thing that's being left out of the vast majority of Whitney Houston obits is the L word!

I got so caught up in writing about the way her musical legacy got besmirched by her icky behavior that I even left it out of my own blog on Saturday night!

But it's hardly a dirty word, so let's go there, the way we did for years and years while she was alive and shining.

When Whitney started out, I hear, it was an open secret in the business that she and Robyn were girlfriends.

Insiders knew it, heard it, assumed it, and/or took it for granted.

Of course, Whitney always denied such a thing and ended up marrying Bobby Brown -- as if that was a good career move -- and Robyn started fading further and further into the background.

I doubt that we'll ever know the full story of Whitney's sexuality and why she followed certain relationship paths.

But shouldn't we acknowledge that this great singer was bisexual?

And didn't the way she always ran from the rumors contribute to her own self-defeating tendency for drama and tension?



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Rehab
Rehab

Being a bisexual is a personal choice. Wether the rumor about Whitney being a bisexual or not is true, let's just repect her as a person.

Ladybird1
Ladybird1

Early in her career (pre-BB), Whitney and Robyn wore matching silver earrings in their right ears.  While this may seem like a cute, innocent, BFF type of thing to the mainstream, it was actually much more of a statement about the nature of their relationship.  Most people would not recognize the symbolism of the circle and cross- the hoop and dangling cross each wore is the quintessential lesbian symbol.  Wake up everyone- Whitney's greatest love was a woman...be happy for her that she was truly happy during those years she spent with Robyn.

Ladybird1
Ladybird1

Bittersweet and eye-opening moment.  Watch Whitney's music video, "I'm Your Baby Tonight" at about 1:27 or so you will see Robyn- a slim, white-gloved "male" dandy put his hand on Whitney's.  

Ladybird1
Ladybird1

Let it be know that Robyn and Whitney were very much in love.  In fact, Robyn was Whitney's first love of her life.  Robyn was then at 16, and still today one handsome lady...tough, bedroom eyes, oozing sexuality, but nobody to fuck with.  The reason we are all so interested in this topic is because wedesperately  want answers to help explain why someone whose talent and beauty were just almost supernatural could've descended into such a horrible hell on earth.  The answer is much more simple than we think, yet full of complicated mysteries.  Bottom line is Whitney couldn't live the life she naturally wanted.  However, she made the choice to give up an openly gay lifestyle to further her career. Don't think for a minute however, that everything was a bed of roses with Robyn Crawford.  She was very protective and territorial with Whitney.  She knew the gem she had, but their relationship was fraught with heated exchanges and even physical violence too (not to the extent of BB).  Yet there was a foundation of true love, trust, respect, and steaming sexual chemistry.  In her whole life, this was the only person who ever connected with Whitney at this level.  If Whitney was just a normal everyday person and not an icon, she probably could've lived a very happy life with her closest friend, her partner Robyn.  Self-denial always inevitably leads to self-destruction...for any human being.  You just can't have it all.  RIP beautiful Whitney...you gave your life for our entertainment.  

Amar Kalifi
Amar Kalifi

I want to hear her interview where she said "F*ck White America" again. Bet that won't come up when they talk about all of her poise and grace.

Jessie
Jessie

Let me just put this out there : The Whitney Houston/Kelly McGillis/Jodie Foster love triangle/tussle happened."....I'm saying, first-hand knowledge : it happened. So, what can we conclude about this? That Whitney was a lesbian? Well, she certainly had at least one affair with a woman. I suppose you can go a step further : If you're kept in the closet by oppressive religious beliefs, a circle of people who don't want you to be gay, and you actually have some genuine sexual attraction to men, perhaps coping with the complexity of the situation via booze and drugs suddenly starts to make sense. Oh wait a minute...am I talking about Whitney or Queen....

Jay Janelle
Jay Janelle

WHO CARES IF SHE WAS OR WASN'T!!?  IT'S NOONE'S BUSINESS BUT HER AND HER PARTNERS. PEOPLE NEED TO MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS. SHE WASN'T ASKING ANYONE FOR ANYTHING. SHE WAS A GROWN ASS WOMAN. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS.

Bueno_bttm
Bueno_bttm

A friend of mine worked with the caterer for the Houston/Brown nuptials. He said it was well know among the staff and guest that Whitney was gay and the marriage was to "help" her career

Muggs
Muggs

 Why must everything revolve around sex with the alternative lifestyle crowd ?

Cheryl
Cheryl

Whether Whitney Houston was a closeted bisexual is an open question. Whether she was an addict is not. Addiction is not caused by one's lack of self-esteem, personal demographics, or level of comfort with one's sexuality. If that were the case 90 per cent of people would have become addicts as teen-agers.

YOKO OH NO
YOKO OH NO

oprah has one less carpet to munch!

latenitebump
latenitebump

why should  we discuss her so-called rumoured sexuality? when musto was so hurt by the worst tweet he ever read he didn´t list his sexuality as one of his copius credits.

openly gay male--i suppose!

whitney houston will long be revered and remembered long after you tired queens leave the face of this planet. thank you whitney for your wonderful contribution (your voice) to this world!

you made dolly parton proud!

VonD
VonD

I knew you were going to go there, girl, so I'm glad you did.

Let's use the term queer, though; bisexual is soooooo 1975.

MartinNYID
MartinNYID

You know what interests me: MM tries to start a discussion, and except for a few people, all you get is snarky, bitchy stupid comments, or some assholes spamming the thread - how can a Whitney Houston have been open, if the price is to be subjected to brainless jackals like this?

Houston was the tip of the spotlight, but there are, I'd venture, probably a third or more of the so-called 'gay community' out there drowining themselves in booze and dope because they cannot cope with their sexuality. Or, in addition, people who may not be 'gay' with a capital 'G', or bisexual or questioning, who are forced into what they perceive to be roles by society.

All I know is, there's too many goddam kids committing suicide, there's too many talented people getting chewed up for profits by Hollywood and the music industries and allowed to suffer a slow death in front of Rupert Murdoch & Co's hyena media circuses, and too many 'gay' males still passing around HIV through unprotected sex and have seroconversion rates back to 1984 levels in many places (London, New York...)

Sometimes, it's time for a good bitchy comment to lighten the mood. Sometimes, it;s time to just hit the dance floor and blow off some steam. The people who claim to be representing 'gays' as lobbyists are just as paid and paid-off as their lost in the clouds women's rights, NAACP, heck and oil company counterparts. Sometimes it's time for change - let it begin with me. What's your part in it?

*cue the next anonymous idiot response*

bsomers
bsomers

To this day, America believes Luther Vandross never found the right woman.  If Whitney was gay and had to marry, why didn't she wed Luther?  Would have made more sense.  And better music, too. . .

Letlizzzzzz
Letlizzzzzz

sad, but being bi is looked down on more than being a esbian or gay. somehow folks think if your bi, that you just go to bed with everyone. Truth, being bi means nothing except that you can fall in love with a man or a woman, does not mean your slrrpin all over town. No matter ho I was with, for that time, he, or she was the only one

PN
PN

Let's not. At least right now. Geez, you could have given some time and thought to this.  For what it's worth, Robyn did express her feelings in an article and it is clear that she is grieving.http://www.esquire.com/the-sid...

Badgermitchell
Badgermitchell

I knew then and I know now that she married the biggest bad boy should could to put an end to the rumors. From the moment she started dating Bobby Brown I said, "That man will ruin her life, mark my words." Now was I right? Or was I right? Or was I right?

RIP Whitney - your music was an important soundtrack to many important times in my life. Your voice, your talent, your contribution to our culture are already missed.

Musto
Musto

Someone on Facebook nervily suggestedthat the lesbian stuff would stain her legend. We reminded him of the realityshow on which she emitted lines like “I’ve got to poop a poop!”

torontotonto
torontotonto

Hasn't Robyn made a bit of a comeback of late (we are talking the Scandinavian one, right?)

Melissajdaniels
Melissajdaniels

Too early my ass. If she hadn't lived such a private life or had so many people following her around all the time.... girl might have come out of the closet years ago and led a happier, healthier more fulfilled life.

SoWhat
SoWhat

@Ladybird1 


Whitney was snorting cocaine with Robyn long before she was smoking crack. How happy was Robyn when Whitney was screwing Jermaine Jackson and other men?

Debseb
Debseb

How do you have so much info about this? Are you making observations or do you have first hand knowledge?

Debseb
Debseb

how do you know? were you on set? more details please!

Musto
Musto

Your comparison is odious and moronic, as usual. I included being in the Out100 as one of my credits!! How dare you insult me with your disgusting disregard for reading skills or the truth. Can't you read?? And besides that, I've been out my entire professional life. The only just comparison would be if I was in the closet. "Why mention Whitney's sexuality when you're in the closet yourself?" But I'm hardly in the closet, am I? I'll talk to the web masters about how to deal with your stupidity.

Ulu
Ulu

Yeah, "queer" is much better. it's so 1987.

SoWhat
SoWhat

@Badgermitchell 

Whitney made bad choices in MEN before Bobby Brown. She dated married Jermaine Jackson, tranny loving he slut Eddie Murphy, restaurateur Brad Johnson who cheated on her and got another girl pregnant, and she was dating Ray J at the time of her death! You muthafuckas kill me, as if openly gay people are never drug addicts or alcoholics!

David Ehrenstein
David Ehrenstein

Indeed!

If Michael Jackson was the King of Pop, Whitney was the Queen of Poop.

VonD
VonD

No, Robyn Crawford was a very tall, African American butch woman, from Newark. She and Whitney went to Catholic school together.

AnonTWO
AnonTWO

Hold on a sec, are you are suggesting that if WH lived openly she would not have had the substance abuses issues that plagued her most of her life?Are you saying you know no openly gay drug addicts or alcoholics?

I have to disagree with you on that! Substance abuse is a serious problem throughout our society. Substance abuse, including prescription medication drug abuse and ALCOHOLISM affects families of all walks of life, gay, straight, black, white, rich and poor.

Blossoms
Blossoms

Exactly! All her "demons" involved being unhappy and not being able to live the life she wanted. having to please everybody by singing and being married and all that jazz that she couldn't really handle.

Melinda9
Melinda9

 I agree - it's not because there's anything 'wrong' with being gay or talking about it, but you don't usually see in obituaries sentences like 'Whitney was a closeted lesbian.' or 'Whitney lived a bisexual lifestyle.'

Rrrr
Rrrr

Too early???? It was talked about her whole life., why should it be silent now?? Tasteless to you??

latenitebump
latenitebump

i know what the out100 translates into (but) how is the general public supposed to know what the out100 is? even the word out! michael musto´s gayness: lets´discuss. yes! i am not going to stroke your ego like the rest of your so-called fans! (never been one to kiss ass!) so, tell your webmasters to deal with my stupidity!stix and stoned may break bones...you know the rest--top!

SoWhat
SoWhat

@VonD 

Robyn didn't attend Catholic school with her, they met at a summer job.

Punkeisha
Punkeisha

What the f*ck is a "bisexual" "lifestyle"?

When will you homophobes STOP reducing lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and intersex people's lives to "lifestyles." There are multiple LIFESTYLES any single person might live.

STOP THE DAMNED HOMOPHOBIA!

Musto
Musto

No, but there's no reason it shouldn't be addressed.The whole outing movement happened when Malcolm Forbes died and not one obit mentioned that he was gay. 

reggie
reggie

hey late night, sounds as though you've done way too many bumps, and now them silly little bumps is all over your weak and lazy brain. we're  tryn to tell you go to rehab but you say NO, NO, NO, the result of which is that your comments are dulled by your delusional thinking and effortlessness at being a bitch and a bore.

latenitebump
latenitebump

i said: general public. not chelsea and the west village but mainstream america! all that other dribble you wrote don´t know what...it is my GOD given right as an american citizen to express myself to fullest extent without fear of persecution under the protection of the united states constitution. ( but they forgot the word censorship! lol)so, i won´t shut the fuck up. more dumb shit! that´s america! don´t like it. well!now, i would like to answer the new whitney blog and get on with it!happy valentine´s day! yes! you can leave me the check!i heard karma is a bitch!

Musto
Musto

So you're revealing your own stupidity once again. "Out" means openly gay, got it? The "Out100" is a famous list of influential LGBTS. And I've been openly gay my whole adult life. How dare you imply that I'm holding back on it, when I'm the most honest, open person there is and have paid the price for it (though I don't regret it). Turns out the guy knew exactly who I am and apologized. And yes, he knew I'm gay because I mention it about every five seconds. So shut the fuck up before saying more DUMB shit.

Melinda9
Melinda9

I was just imagining what some random person might write in an obit - chillax.

Melinda9
Melinda9

I hear you. I just meant why no one is talking about it yet. Since she wasn't out as her celebrity self, the obituary type articles don't really have a way to bring it up. Since it would be seen as speculation or gossip.

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