Ever Fixate On A Dis? They Drive Me Batty!

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It's the main thing I do!

Everything could be going terrifically in my life, with success, approbation, and awards, but if one person throws me shade or acts like I'm not important, it can consume me for months as I desperately try to figure what's behind it and whether I really rate such a blase dismissal.

Just recently, I asked a friend who was leaving his job at a certain website if he could tell me which of his ex-coworkers to reach out to so I could have a contact there and hopefully build a mutually beneficial relationship.

He suggested a certain woman, whom he said was nice, so I emailed her, introducing myself and saying hello.

She didn't even acknowledge it!

As my overture was greeted with stony silence for days, it started eating me alive like a rabid tapeworm as I self-pityingly wondered if:

*She has no idea who I am.

*Or worse, she does know and wants nothing to do with me.

After all my years of service and all the props I get these days, it really galled me that there was this one person who simply didn't give a shit and couldn't bother to take 10 seconds to at least be polite about it.

I can easily become consumed by such a slight and I sometimes let it threaten to topple all the good stuff--all because someone I've never even heard of didn't write back.

A therapist would probably say, "Good. You needed a humbling experience."

But I would reply, "Fuck you! I demand some common decency! This creature is beyond rude!"

And I would be sounding like Donald Trump.

So I'll just move on to my next honor and forget the horror.

Maybe.

Anyway, am I alone in this unhealthy obsession? Hello? Hello?


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10 comments
Leehoneya
Leehoneya

I wonder is anyone knows if there is a Social Connector for Thunderbird in development by anyone. I did Rotary joint some work on outlook and saw the linkedin and facebook social media connectors in outlook that is a great idea and very useful especially for marketing professionals like me. 

corrective_unconscious
corrective_unconscious

Or a reply from her could have gone in yours. You should phone for something like that, anyway, in my opinion.

F. Packer
F. Packer

Tell us the name of the website so we can boycott it.

VonD
VonD

The best response is THE POLICE if he threatened you, Michael Musto! Sounds like a psycho to me.

VonD
VonD

So true. Someone writes you to say, please apply for said job or opportunity, via email. You do. Then they are so damned trifling they not only don't write you back to turn you down, they don't even respond! But you can't throw shade at them because then they might whiteball you. Feeling you on this one, Savannah!

Musto
Musto

And how very dare anyone think I'd send a fraudulent photo of my husband!

Musto
Musto

OK, thanks for the input.

nostradavid
nostradavid

Spam filters are often set so tight that only email from folks in the address book are allowed through. Have your friend contact her for you, and see if she's interested.  I sent a link to your Sizzling Photos of Channing Tatum from last month to someone. He replied "Uhm...don't think that's Tatum." after viewing it on his Blackberry. It takes a really sharp eye to discern that on such a tiny screen. The best picture was solarized, after all. I told him if he thought you had published a fraudulent photo, he could comment on the blog to that effect.  A dis only has the power you give it - ignore them and relax.

normadesmond
normadesmond

gotta love facebook's unfriend button. always carry it with you.

Musto
Musto

Here's the latest in my freak parade.  Yesterday I put my Lindsay-as-Liz photo blog on Facebook. A guy named Michael S. Lee commented that he thought it was pathetic. As a joke--and basically agreeing with him--I wrote, "Maybe it's Liz: The Later Years." He then went ballistic, as if this was a terrible insult to Liz. He put comments calling me a "dumb fairy" and saying "What are you, on drugs?" I shot back that he's probably a closet case and that Liz fought for gay rights. He kept calling me an idiot and a fairy with bad fashion sense, and said "I'M GAY!" I replied, "Well, please turn straight."  It was icky--but anyway, he then sent me a personal message threatening violence--saying he'll go "carnival crazy" on me if he comes to NYC. So maybe no response is the best of all.

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