when someone calls me that I feel like crying but I say it all the time when referring to my friends. kind of like it is o.k. for blacks to use the N work but no one else. weird!

"Your mother sucks cocks in hell" works for me.

Anyone cretinous to yell that might also be barbaric enough to get violent. So I generally just walk away and feel very sorry for them.

Agreed. It's a reflection on THEM, not on me. Pity is my only emotion. But rather than try to educate them right there on the spot, I run far away.

Whoa!!! Does Mr. Brain want us to Pork 4 Faggots? And give us the balls to do it?

I prefer to pull out my pistol and shoot blanks at them. That scares them.

I smile a big smile and say "Thank you!!" That really throws them off.

I smile & shout "YEAH... and proud of it!" and pray a brick isn't hurled at me. If a woman does it, they get the C word & then I watch them break down & cry. That is the most powerful word ever!

If a woman calls me a faggot - I just tell her that men won't sleep with her because she's fat, not because they're gay. If it is a man I will now be using Musto's suggestion.

why not just yell "breeder"!

but u wrote in past tense, so this must be history.

why not just yell "breeder"!

but u wrote in past tense, so this must be history.

and just how is it so "damned obvious" that ur gay when seen fm a passing car?

In the mid-80s while living on the Lower East Side, I was walking home with my roommate at night and some guy called us faggots. I'd like to say I had a killer comeback, but said nothing and kept walking as a chill ran up my back.

What's shocking is that we both thought we were manly as lumberjacks...

Does Mr. Brain make veggie faggots?

"and just how is it so "damned obvious" that ur gay when seen fm a passing car?"

My glow-in-the-dark Laboutins always give me away.

Grab your crotch and yell "Bite me, bitch!"

Then - if they try to do something about it -
stomp them with your Christian Louboutin Bat Girls !

So I guess hiding behind that "straight acting, straight appearing" schtik is not working for the gays afterall, huh? Why do you think that is? Could be that you cannot act anything other than what you really are? Just an "honest" thought.

how about when you overhear someone say faggot - derogatorily - but not to you? do go out of your way to say something? was at the gym yesterday heard one guy say to his friend "i was checking to see if you'd look, faggot" - this was in the aisle next to me in the locker room. wish i could've glided by and said "anything worth looking at?" but the moment passed for any choice, cutting, or witty remark. of course it all depends on the situation - if it's being said in outright malice (an alley, a passing car) i don't think any comment would diffuse the danger or make them rethink themselves, if it's being said out of some homoerotic tension (lockerroom jockeying) then there's a million interesting things you could say (would like to hear those stories). if you're a teacher overhearing students or something like that, then i guess you should have some comment at the ready...

Several replies:

"Thank you."

"Why? Do you want to stick your swizzle stick up my blender and blend it?"

"All I can get."

"Twice on Sundays."

"See ya in church."

etc.

I usually call them bitch first. It throws them off, then you have to explain that (man or woman) if they're going to act like a bitch, they're going to be called one. It makes them stop and think for a moment. Just enough time to get a head start and into your car.

I just say "You're gonna look pretty silly getting your ass kicked by a faggot." They think you're crazy and immediately back down.

I think everyone needs to watch Season 2 episode 1 of Skins in which a group of young boys are harrassing Maxxie about being gay and he just listens, smiling away until they're finished and then says "alright lads". Such a sweet character, love him.
There's no better way to show jerks up than by not caring... because it's NOT an insult. Just be confident in yourself and your beliefs, like with anything. Being different to the norm teaches us to have a tougher skin I think and I don't mind that. It makes me a better person and I will live a fuller life for it.