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When Did You Know You Were Gay?

By Michael Musto, Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 11:30AM
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Categories: gaaaaayyyyyy

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If indeed you are gay, that is. If you're not, then when did you know you were straight, bi, or bicurious?

Was it your reaction to your first Judy Garland song? Vin Diesel movie? Weekend in Palm Springs?

I'll tell you how I knew. As a 12-year-old, I felt vaguely sexual and kept looking at bathing suited people in travel brochures in order to find a target for my feelings.

I strenuously tried to find the women in the brochures attractive, but the only gal who seemed even mildly alluring to me was the one with a chest flatter than a carving board, a lady who looked pretty much like a dude, actually.

The real men in their trunks, on the other hand, made me tumescent with delight, and I couldn't fight the feeling any more than I could stop finding myself at Liz and Dick movies at the local crash-and-burn cinema.

Just around then, a TV show called Tarzan was on the air, with studly Ron Ely swinging from a long vine in nothing but a loincloth cut well below the navel.

That did it! I knew I was a big old fudgepacker and there was no turning back from the chocolate factory.

And you?

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Comments (33)

Anonymous says:

Ron did it for me too. Just now. That photo is woof!

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 11:36AM
bert says:

I'd go see brat pack movies and always tried to find Molly Ringwald or Ally Sheedy attractive. but they just seemed cute. But I LOVED Andrew McCarthy ad Emilio Estevez. That's when a figured it out, especially after a certain "wet dream."

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 11:38AM
UhOkay says:

Strangely enough, I remember being attracted to girls up until the age of 12 or so, then overnight it changed - as if a gay spirit had possessed me. In retrospect I realize in earlier years I was attracted to some of the teenaged guys in the neighborhood - and some actors on TV - without really knowing I was having sexual thoughts.

To show you how naive I was, other kids had figured it out before I did. I was living overseas at the time and wasn't up on the latest American lingo, so at one point a boy stood up as I passed and shouted, "You're the gay!" I'd never heard the phrase and had no idea what he meant. I soon found out.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 11:41AM
Jack says:

The men's underwear ads in the Sears catalog! It was like some secret forbidden territory to me, but I loved to visit it.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:14PM
Anonymous says:

Jim Palmer's underwear ad.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:17PM
Muscato says:

While Anonymous has stirred up pleasant memories by mentioning the momentous Palmer underwear ad, which always made getting TV Guide a special thrill, it goes back even further. I clearly remember, summer of '68, playing with the little girl next door and thinking that while Barbie, Francie, and Twiggy were good fun, Ken and GI Joe really had a future together...

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:35PM
Billy says:

My freshman year in high school, I was such a nerd and weakling, I hated PE so I got to spend time in the weight room instead of running laps or playing dodgeball. In the weight room I got to witness the senior jocks working out, and I developed feelings for one guy named Russ. He was super nice to me, which made things even better. He had an awesome smooth body, porcelain white but tight, curly dark brown hair and brown eyes...sigh...I once saw him in the local mall after he graduated and he remembered me. I sure do miss him, he's married with kids and lives far away.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:37PM
Tim says:

When I had the MAD crush on Robert Conrad in his tight pants on Wild Wild West.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:48PM
Richard says:

I blame it all on Dustin Hoffman. Watching The Graduate (I'm giving my age away), it was not so much those nice shots of him in swimming trunks (though I remembered those vividly later that night) as the feeling of sweetness, innocence. I wanted to take care of him.

Years later, I actually saw him in NYC and almost humiliated myself... and, yes, I'm happy now with another cute, sweet guy (about the same height and coloration) that, happily, I get to take care of (in more ways than I care to mention here).

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 12:54PM
Jonster says:

I knew when I was four. I just knew. By 8 I started a "show and tell" club which was held in my fort, which was actually our sailboat covered under a tarp in the backyard, dark and musty. Perfect. Club members started dropping off one by one as we got older and I got my first real boyfriend around 10. Eugene. In the summer, when the boat was in the water, we'd swim out to it and lay naked on the deck together. Eugene still lives in my hometown, with his family, in the same house he grew up in. And I still drive by every once in a while when I'm out there to see if I can catch him in the yard.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 1:17PM
OsamaBinCrosby says:

Tuning in to see Chad Everett every week on "Medical Center," a TV drama that ran from 1969 to 76. I was 8 when it premiered, and I remember going gaga over Chad at first sight! My sister was in love with him as well, and we used to get right up close to the TV and swoon over him. I believe it was then that my parents knew that they wouldn't be babysitting any grandkids of mine. My, my...a very precocious queen-in-training!

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 1:45PM
signmeup says:

I wanted to be Jai to Ron Ely's Tarzan! Also never missed an episode of "Medical Center"...mezmerized by by Chad Everett. I guess that the fact that I waited with bated breath for the special Sears catalog Summer edition for the men's bathing suit section might have also tipped me off. And a trip to Madison Square Garden at 8 years old to see the circus...3 rings but my eyes were always on the ring with shirtless guys with tights!

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 1:51PM
Mike Dooley says:

Was Jason Raize of the original Lion King gay? And if so did his father disown him when he found out.

I know this is VERY old news, but I'm getting/seeing so many different theroies on this as you can imagine. And obviously we may never know why he committed suicide. I just don't want to post something that is gossip.

Thanks

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 2:42PM
Anonymous says:

When I used to play "Lost in Space" with my sister and I was Penny.

When I used to play "Elvis and Pricilla" with a childhood friend and I was Pricilla, dressed up in his mom's pumps and running after him in the backyard calling "Elvis! Elvis!"

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 3:32PM
K. says:

Yeah, I was pretty much told I was gay. I had no idea what it meant... or what made me gay. But I had remember looking at my 4th grade classmate Leo and getting that tingly feeling all over... you know.

But then, Marcel came along. He was Swiss, blonde and beautiful. He came to 7th grade homeroom in his multi-colour bicycle shorts and a white tee shirt... I was done in. Then he moved away the next year. *sigh*

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 4:05PM
E says:

UhOkay - " ... then overnight it changed - as if a gay spirit had possessed me." haha-sweet

4th grade loved no game ever more than hide and seek when Robin and I would hide really well and always together make out and explore. They never did find us.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 4:11PM
cjay says:

When I saw Carrie Prejean's video and didn't feel that stirring in my trousers that other guys would usually get.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 4:38PM
Mark says:

I was 7, I think. That would make it 1961-1962ish.

First there was my sister's boyfriend. They were 9 years older than me. Her boyfriend Tom was handsome, treated me like real person, wore a crew cut, pegged slacks, and penny loafers. To this day the memory of him still thrills me.

Then there was my epiphany in second grade: The wooden door to the men's room in grammar school had slats at the bottom for ventilation. One was missing. I looked through it and saw one of the faculty peeing at the urinal and I saw his dick! It was a truly religious experience. I am surprised no one saw me on my knees peering through the crack. They would've thought I was depraved. Horny yes, depraved no.

Same year I developed a crush on a beautiful young boy named Lee. Then came the heady aroma of men that resides in public pool locker rooms.

The rest is history. Cherished memories, every one.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 5:51PM
Sparky Rectospangle says:

It was a combo of Michael Landon in tight pants, naked natives in National Geographic, Sean Connery in Dr. No, the lagoon scene where his wet pants showed shaft and you could count the balls all day, and then the locker room view of 'developing' friends...I am really amazed I developed bigger than any of them were. How did that happen?

Tune in next week, etc.

Sparky

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 6:26PM
normadesmond says:

don't remember my age, but i was very young.....we'd gone to the circus.....i'd been mesmerized by the flying dude in the tights. oh, and there was my friend in second grade & we'd blow one another.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 6:45PM
Gay Enwombo says:

don't remember my age, but i was very young.....we'd gone to the circus.....i'd been mesmerized by the flying dude in the tights. oh, and there was my friend in second grade & we'd blow one another.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 6:46PM
Rey says:

There were some inklings prior, but for me it was a clincher seeing Gregory Harrison emerging from the shower clad only in a towel in the "Trapper John M.D." title sequence each week.

That, and I wanted to be the chimp that rode along in the truck in "B.J. & the Bear"

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 6:54PM
cjay says:

To be honest (when compared to my first post earlier), I think it all started when I was flipping through the channels, stumbled upon WWF, and felt a twitching in my pants. I believe it was Hulk Hogan in his trademark yellow briefs that did it for me. I was probably about 9 or 10 years old.

But now, seeing Carrie Prejean as being the prototype of Miss America just makes me STAY gay.

Posted On: Thursday, Nov. 19 2009 @ 9:48PM
Mr. Natural says:

seventh grade -
beating off with my best friend every chance we got

Posted On: Friday, Nov. 20 2009 @ 1:56AM
La Grand Puta says:

I was very young, maybe 8-9.
This handsome 25 year old body building former marine moved into the place next door. I would visit him while he worked out. Of course my older sister would of course chase me away. Imagine my delight when he built parallel bars outside my bedroom window and worked out wearing only his old ratty 'Daisy Dukes' or his red USMC running shorts. Sheer sweaty masculine beauty before my eyes. I think I actually swooned....LOL

Posted On: Friday, Nov. 20 2009 @ 2:25AM
Abraxas says:

I had the biggest crush on "Radar" from M.A.S.H

Posted On: Friday, Nov. 20 2009 @ 5:23AM
OhioOrrin says:

what is it w judy garland anyway?

also, reading these posts makes me, as a vet, feel that "dont ask, dont tell" is appropriate.

Posted On: Friday, Nov. 20 2009 @ 10:51AM
movielover says:

My parent's handsome friend would come to see them and I would want to crawl in his lap and hug him and smell him. He was about 25 at the time. I was in love with him and I was probably about 5 or 6. I didn't actually get any action with boys for a few more years.

Posted On: Friday, Nov. 20 2009 @ 12:09PM
Alaimo says:

Love the concept of this post, MM. But you (and we) did this same young gay revelations "when did you know?" thing here months ago.

Posted On: Saturday, Nov. 21 2009 @ 6:00PM
Ralph Cantito says:

I always tell people that the Thursday Night ABC line-up of my youth made me gay...The Flying Nun, That Girl and Bewitched....

Posted On: Sunday, Nov. 22 2009 @ 7:54AM
David Ehrenstein says:

When I saw Dolores Gray's "Not Since Nineveh" number in "Kismet" back in 1954.

I was seven.

Posted On: Monday, Nov. 23 2009 @ 11:03AM
Anonymous says:

I guess I always knew, but there was one day in seventh grade that made it all very clear. I was walking a few steps behind my friend Scott and his girlfriend Denise. I was admiring Denise's beautiful ass when I suddenly realized that Scott's looked even better. Although the thought terrified me, I also felt a great relief, like suddenly everything made sense.

Posted On: Monday, Nov. 23 2009 @ 12:37PM
tim from Radio Clash says:

Mr Shorofsky from Fame aka Albert Hague (TV show, although he was in the film too briefly) at age 7 or 8.

What can I say, I have a thing for teachers and grey beards (my boyfriend is both :-D)

Posted On: Monday, Nov. 30 2009 @ 1:29PM

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