I Miss You: Aaliyah's Indelible Influence On A Generation Of Male Artists
For a generation, the unexpected death of Aaliyah Dana Haughton 10 years ago today remains as significant as the deaths of Notorious B.I.G. and 2Pac. This especially rings true for millennial men, who were just realizing girls really didn't have cooties when Aaliyah released her debut, Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number, in 1994. In the years since the plane carrying her and her entourage crashed shortly after taking off, killing everyone on board, the fanboy-like appreciation for Aaliyah has only grown.
None of this is to put her memory in the context of a battle of the sexes; many women were in awe of the way she was able to be so cool without being coy, or how her made-for-church voice never overpowered. But for young men, Aaliyah's death was like losing a crush. We didn't really know how to deal with losing a crush, and we'd never had one like her.
Mary J. Blige was a bit too seasoned; TLC had Aaliyah's sexy, tomboy style but none of her grace. She accentuated her perfect midriff, she wore dark shades to cover her eyes when her jet-black hair didn't do the job. And her songs"At Your Best," "4 Page Letter," "One In A Million"had men wishing she was talking about us, and women listening to them was thinking about us.
Aaliyah feat. Jay-Z, "I Miss You (Remix)"
The affection felt toward her by male fans, and the effect her death has had on male artiststhose who knew her and those who did notis evident in song, starting with Jay-Z's tribute in rhyme over Aaliyah's posthumously released single "Miss You." Keep in mind: Jay-Z never spoke at length on how he felt about Aaliyah's death. These bars are probably the most he ever said and will say about his fallen friend.
Aaliyah, "Miss You"
Aaliyah feat DMX, "Come Back In One Piece"
The star-studded official video for "Miss You" begins with a heartfelt prayer from DMX, her co-star in the movie Romeo Must Die. DMX getting the honor of reciting a eulogy is a telling sign; a look further back at the video for "Come Back In One Piece," from the Romeo Must Die soundtrack, shows how much DMX adored her. There's none of that "This is my bitch" vibe to him in the video. It's more like, "This is my sister, my homegirl."