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I'm hoping you can help me. I'm a passionate atheist and one of my best friends is too. I've known him since we were six years old and I love him like a brother. Just last week, he got married. He hired a non-denominational minister to conduct his ceremony. Everything was going fine until the minister said, "We are gathered here today, in the presence of God, to unite these two people in matrimony." I tensed up as soon as I heard the word "god" and basically spent the rest of the ceremony fuming over the fact that this minister snuck the god thing into my friend's special day. The whole thing was tarnished. I never really mentioned how upset I was to my friend or anyone else, but I can't stop thinking about it and feeling like I should've spoken up. I really hate religion and that religious people always need to force their dogma into everyone's lives. Just because they think everything's being controlled by some bearded sky-daddy doesn't mean they need to insert their faith into otherwise beautiful parts of my life. I'm the kind of person who stands up for atheism. I've made a commitment to fight against religion whenever I can. I'm most upset that my friend allowed this minister to say the word "god" during such an important moment in his life and then didn't say anything back or even seem to care. My question is: Should I mention this to my friend, or do I just let it go?