Are you a musician? Is your group having issues? Ask Fan Landers! Critic Jessica Hopper has played in and managed bands, toured internationally, booked shows, produced records, worked as a publicist and is the author of The Girls' Guide to Rocking, a how-to for teen ladies. She is here to help you stop doing it wrong. Send your problems to her -- confidentiality is assured, unless you want to use your drama as a ticket to Internet microfame.
I am in a guy-girl duo with a decent amount of success behind us. The guy has an extensive touring history and audio knowledge. I come from a very different background, but I have owned businesses before, and have written several extensive business plans. I also enjoy networking, so I have been a big asset when it comes to radio, touring etc. (I do all of our social media, interviews, merch, outreach to radio, and tour managing.)
But when we have a disagreement about something band-related (like a music video or photo shoot) he tends to talk down to me and act as if I don't contribute to the band. He always acts like his experience is more important than my opinions. The thing is, he has never had this much success in music before. But it's hard to give constructive criticism and still get respect from him. I am proud of all I have been able to contribute to the band but it seems like he can't acknowledge or appreciate that. How do I get the respect I feel I deserve from him? How can you be heard and respected as a woman without being labeled a bitch or told you're on your period?
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