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I play drums in a few local bands. One of them is a touring band, but all of them are money-losing operations, which sucks, but none of them are the kind of music that is going to be popular. There's a dude here in [redacted] with an indie rock band. Not terrible, but not really my thing. He's a big fan of one of my bands and asked me if I would join his full time. The thing is, he's a trust-fund kid and playing in his band is a salaried gig. The money is better than my temp job. Everyone in the scene knows his deal (the band's "van" is a Lexus SUV) and so joining the band would be embarrassing. I'd have to quit my other bands, which sucks. Should I do it?