Governor Andrew Cuomo, Activists React to Marriage Equality in Albany

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Sen. Tom Duane and Natasha Dillon After the Vote
After the Senate passed same-sex marriage equality in Albany last night, the reactions were mixed: volatile, ecstatic, tearful, joyous, and outraged. There was a shared sense of history and exhaustion by people for and against the issue, as many of those in the Capitol had been there around the clock for days. Both inside and outside the chamber, despite the somewhat intimidating presence of state troopers, people were irrepressible in their emotions.

Here are a few of the emotional reactions we witnessed, and some pictures, after the jump.

Brian Brown, the President of the anti-marriage equality National Organization for Marriage, sat in the galley openly weeping with sadness when the 33 to 29 vote was announced. (The bulk of the galley erupted spontaneously in chants of "USA, USA, USA", and even some members of the press couldn't keep themselves from clapping and cheering.)

Jake Goodman and Natasha Dillon of Queer Rising, were, uncharacteristically, actually at a loss for words. (For a little while, at least.)

Those state troopers (whose job it was to make people sit down and stop clapping) actually later apologized to at least one of the people they'd shushed for making them be quiet.

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This woman sitting behind us began crying with (unlike Brian Brown) tears of joy streaming down her face. The seven year-old-boy, who sat in the Senate gallery patiently awaiting a vote for about twelve hours yesterday, couldn't stop hugging his gay dad.

In an interview with Senator Tom Duane, he told us that, even though Lt. Governor Bob Duffy limited his remarks on the floor, he hadn't left anything important out. "You know, I just wanted to show my heart," Duane said. "That was the most important thing. If I left out a line, or there was a card that didn't get read off of, that's fine. It was just my heart I wanted to open up to my colleagues." (Also, when Natasha Dillon greeted him, he thanked her for getting equality passed.) Duane also made it clear that, while he and his partner of many years Louis Webre can now get married, no immediate nuptials are on the calendar...yet.

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Lt. Governor Bob Duffy, with "no disrespect to his father" (and despite the fact they were standing in front of a portrait of FDR!) introduced his boss as the "greatest Governor in the history of New York."

Fred Dicker of the New York Post asked Governor Cuomo about "same-sex marriage" and actually seemed to correct himself mid-question, changing the phrase to "marriage equality."

Governor Andrew Cuomo addressed the press in the briefing room of of the Hall of Governors, with his daughters and his girlfriend Sandra Lee watching. He had the confidence of a man who knew he'd done something politically difficult, but of which he was clearly personally and intimately proud. Saying that "I say this as a proud Democrat," Cuomo pointed out that 29 of the 30 Democratic members of the Senate voted for marriage equality. (We are familiar with the one who voted against it.) Cuomo also had nothing but praise for Republican Majority Leader Dean Skelos, who allowed the measure to come up for a vote despite voting against it, and for the four Republicans whose "yes" votes Cuomo seemed to think were even more courageous than those of their Democratic counterparts.

Shortly after Cuomo left the briefing room, he signed the freshly printed Marriage Equality Act into law. Then he, Lee and his daughters descended the grand staircase of the immense Capitol building, with Senators James Alesi and Tom Duane, and Assemblyman Daniel O'Donnell in tow. The marble halls of Henry Hobson Richardson's Capitol, so recently alive with protests and chants, spirituals of praise and resistance, and tears of joy and sadness, quickly grew muted. The members of the Capitol press corps made their way home, members of the New York press began trying to figure out how to get home, and all of the activists were already long gone.

On a Greyhound bus from Albany back to New York City , drag queen Honey LaBronx was out of drag in her alter-ego (as Ben Strothmann). We were there when LaBronx stopped traffic on Sixth Avenue at rush hour earlier this year, in an effort to bring attention to marriage equality and hold Governor Cuomo's feet to the fire. LaBronx is also a staple of Drag Queen Weddings for Equality. Yesterday, Strothmann had to make a difficult decision about having a big work opportunity in the city, or coming up to Albany.

Did he have any regrets about missing that professional chance, and instead choosing to be one of the hundred or so witnesses in the room when the New York Senate passed marriage equality? "I wouldn't have missed this for the world," Strothmann said, content. He tried to stay awake as long as he could on the bus, "because once I fall asleep, today is over, and what happened will just be history."

Soon enough he nodded off, knowing that marriage equality was real and, indeed, history.

strasher@villagevoice.com | @steven_thrasher

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Penny Sautereau-Fife
Penny Sautereau-Fife

Brian Brown was crying because sitting there, surrounded by all that happy cheering and raw human emotion, he temporarily couldn't keep up his "Everyone REALLY supports ME" facade and faced with reality, had to temporarily accept that, yes, he IS in fact a worthless bigoted hateful piece of shit and his loss here was something to celebrate. As soon as he left he shed reality once again to live in his delusional bubble of hate.

NightwingNoVA
NightwingNoVA

Hurrah for gay marriage!

It is about equal choices and societal benefits.

Unfortunately, there are those who are trying to make it about their own wishes for the gay community.

There is neither a “gay lifestyle” nor a “straight lifestyle.” But, there are generational differences in gays’ approach to personal relationships. It is true that this is because of the differences in social environments in which each generation of gays matured. Younger gays tend to have had their gay identity integrated into their family and social lives as they were growing up. They therefore will tend to experience life closer to that of the average teenager and young adult rather than dealing with sexual identity and constantly wanting to satiate forbidden sexual desires. Younger gays tend to be more comfortable with their romantic desires. For them, it is about being a whole person where romantic/sexual impulses take their rightful place as one of the many components of their personalities.

In the end, it is all about choices. If gays want commitment, then they should pursue it. If it makes them happy, they should stick to it. And that is what many gays are saying in their quest for marriage equality, as opposed to having their sexual impulses dominate their interactions with the rest of the world.

Yet, there are some gays who see the gay culture of the past as the rightful and pure culture for the gay community. Culture changes – always, since the beginning of time. As society accepts us more, the less we will rebel and the more we will seek and benefit from committed relationships.

Some gays see the gay community as a force to transform straight society and eliminate what they see (and experienced) as its wrongs. While we may all agree that there are societal injustices, rejecting all that is “straight” is not a good solution; most of what both straight and gay folks want and do in their lives are simply generic human – which cannot be isolated by sexual orientation. Nor should we try to find a uniquely gay way of living because of distasteful experiences with “straight society.” While some of us may have had bad experiences, those are personal and do not necessarily mean that “straight culture” is uniformly bad and needs to be transformed. Together, society will keep addressing its wrongs.

Some want folks to be less “interested in following the rules than being themselves” – meaning to be “gay” instead of trying to integrate and be “straight.” Freedom is one of the greatest rights. That is what all gay men and women should aspire to achieve – to live their lives with the same opportunities as others and to be able to make the same decisions: marriage and commitment being one of them.

NightwingNoVA
NightwingNoVA

Hurrah for gay marriage!

It is about equal choices and societal benefits.

Unfortunately, there are those who are trying to make it about their own wishes for the gay community.

There is neither a “gay lifestyle” nor a “straight lifestyle.” But, there are generational differences in gays’ approach to personal relationships. It is true that this is because of the differences in social environments in which each generation of gays matured. Younger gays tend to have had their gay identity integrated into their family and social lives as they were growing up. They therefore will tend to experience life closer to that of the average teenager and young adult rather than dealing with sexual identity and constantly wanting to satiate forbidden sexual desires. Younger gays tend to be more comfortable with their romantic desires. For them, it is about being a whole person where romantic/sexual impulses take their rightful place as one of the many components of their personalities.

In the end, it is all about choices. If gays want commitment, then they should pursue it. If it makes them happy, they should stick to it. And that is what many gays are saying in their quest for marriage equality, as opposed to having their sexual impulses dominate their interactions with the rest of the world.

Yet, there are some gays who see the gay culture of the past as the rightful and pure culture for the gay community. Culture changes – always, since the beginning of time. As society accepts us more, the less we will rebel and the more we will seek and benefit from committed relationships.

Some gays see the gay community as a force to transform straight society and eliminate what they see (and experienced) as its wrongs. While we may all agree that there are societal injustices, rejecting all that is “straight” is not a good solution; most of what both straight and gay folks want and do in their lives are simply generic human – which cannot be isolated by sexual orientation. Nor should we try to find a uniquely gay way of living because of distasteful experiences with “straight society.” While some of us may have had bad experiences, those are personal and do not necessarily mean that “straight culture” is uniformly bad and needs to be transformed. Together, society will keep addressing its wrongs.

Some want folks to be less “interested in following the rules than being themselves” – meaning to be “gay” instead of trying to integrate and be “straight.” Freedom is one of the greatest rights. That is what all gay men and women should aspire to achieve – to live their lives with the same opportunities as others and to be able to make the same decisions: marriage and commitment being one of them.

NightwingNoVA
NightwingNoVA

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Hurrahfor gay marriage!

 

Itis about equal choices and societal benefits.

 

Unfortunately,there are those who are trying to make it about their own wishes for the gaycommunity.

 

Thereis neither a “gay lifestyle” nor a “straight lifestyle.”   But, there are generationaldifferences in gays’ approach to personal relationships.  It is true that this is because of thedifferences in social environments in which each generation of gays matured.  Younger gays tend to have had their gayidentity integrated into their family and social lives as they were growingup.  They therefore will tend toexperience life closer to that of the average teenager and young adult ratherthan dealing with sexual identity and constantly wanting to satiate forbiddensexual desires.  Younger gays tendto be more comfortable with their romantic desires.  For them, it is about being a whole person whereromantic/sexual impulses take their rightful place as one of the manycomponents of their personalities.

 

Inthe end, it is all about choices. If gays want commitment, then they should pursue it.  If it makes them happy, they shouldstick to it.  And that is what manygays are saying in their quest for marriage equality, as opposed to havingtheir sexual impulses dominate their interactions with the rest of the world.

 

Yet,there are some gays who see the gay culture of the past as the rightful andpure culture for the gay community. Culture changes – always, since the beginning of time.  As society accepts us more, the less wewill rebel and the more we will seek and benefit from committedrelationships. 

 

Somegays see the gay community as a force to transform straight society andeliminate what they see (and experienced) as its wrongs.  While we may all agree that there aresocietal injustices, rejecting all that is “straight” is not a good solution;most of what both straight and gay folks want and do in their lives are simplygeneric human – which cannot be isolated by sexual orientation.  Nor should we try to find a uniquelygay way of living because of distasteful experiences with “straightsociety.”  While some of us mayhave had bad experiences, those are personal and do not necessarily mean that“straight culture” is uniformly bad and needs to be transformed.  Together, society will keep addressingits wrongs.

 

Somewant folks to be less “interested in following the rules than being themselves”– meaning to be “gay” instead of trying to integrate and be “straight.”  Freedom is one of the greatestrights.  That is what all gay menand women should aspire to achieve – to live their lives with the same opportunitiesas others and to be able to make the same decisions: marriage and commitmentbeing one of them.

NightwingNoVA
NightwingNoVA

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Hurrah forgay marriage!

 

It is aboutequal choices and societal benefits.

 

Unfortunately,there are those who are trying to make it about their own wishes for the gaycommunity.

 

There isneither a “gay lifestyle” nor a “straight lifestyle.”   But, there are generational differences in gays’approach to personal relationships. It is true that this is because of the differences in socialenvironments in which each generation of gays matured.  Younger gays tend to have had their gayidentity integrated into their family and social lives as they were growingup.  They therefore will tend toexperience life closer to that of the average teenager and young adult ratherthan dealing with sexual identity and constantly wanting to satiate forbiddensexual desires.  Younger gays tendto be more comfortable with their romantic desires.  For them, it is about being a whole person whereromantic/sexual impulses take their rightful place as one of the manycomponents of their personalities.

 

In the end,it is all about choices.  If gayswant commitment, then they should pursue it.  If it makes them happy, they should stick to it.  And that is what many gays are sayingin their quest for marriage equality, as opposed to having their sexualimpulses dominate their interactions with the rest of the world.

 

Yet, thereare some gays who see the gay culture of the past as the rightful and pureculture for the gay community. Culture changes – always, since the beginning of time.  As society accepts us more, the less wewill rebel and the more we will seek and benefit from committedrelationships. 

 

Some gayssee the gay community as a force to transform straight society and eliminatewhat they see (and experienced) as its wrongs.  While we may all agree that there are societal injustices,rejecting all that is “straight” is not a good solution; most of what bothstraight and gay folks want and do in their lives are simply generic human –which cannot be isolated by sexual orientation.  Nor should we try to find a uniquely gay way of livingbecause of distasteful experiences with “straight society.”  While some of us may have had badexperiences, those are personal and do not necessarily mean that “straightculture” is uniformly bad and needs to be transformed.  Together, society will keep addressingits wrongs.

 

Some wantfolks to be less “interested in following the rules than being themselves” –meaning to be “gay” instead of trying to integrate and be “straight.”  Freedom is one of the greatest rights.  That is what all gay men and womenshould aspire to achieve – to live their lives with the same opportunities asothers and to be able to make the same decisions: marriage and commitment beingone of them.

 

 

Alvin McEwen
Alvin McEwen

what the heck was Brian Brown crying about? He wasn't forced to divorce his wife.

GusII
GusII

Since he cannot rely on logic or the law, his arguments have always been about hyperbola and emotion. His break down should be expected, like the tears of Elmer Gantry.

Abel
Abel

Brian was crying because he sees the handwriting on the wall - he will be out of a job and a career within the decade.  He'll go down in history as a minor villain.  

Nathan Phelps
Nathan Phelps

It's tough being on the wrong side of history. Let him shed a few tears.

Alpha4535
Alpha4535

I am distressed to see the "discussion" of same-sex marriage descend to mudslinging about the right to marry your pet snake or whatever. There are plenty of reasons to support marriage as a union of one man and one woman to form the building block of family. Marriage has a history of 3-5,000 years in the east and west and is embraced by the Bible, the Koran, the Torah and in any number of religious books, and by most societies. This issue is too big to be decided by the notoriously corrupt and inefficient NY legislature. (For anyone who believes that any of these guys (or gals) have a conscience big enough to cast a vote on, I have a only-slightly-used bridge in Brooklyn I can sell you, cheap.) Ironically, the NY legislature became wonderfully efficient on Friday night in cramming down a same-sex marriage law, in a series of late-night, back-door arm twisting that gave no real time or quarter for intelligent public discussion of its wide-ranging implications. Same-sex marriage is a society-shifting move that deserves more than a late-night vote by a morally iffy legislature, an ego-trip by the very spouse-less Andrew Cuomo, or laughable "right side of history" manipulation by the equally spouse-less Michael Bloomberg.  For that matter, the Pentacostal biases of Ruben Diaz are not the basis of true discussion; nor is the too-little-too-late grandstanding of the bishops of the Catholic Church, who have their own credibility issues in light of their vows not to marry at all and the church's endless pedophilia scandals. This is a country of educated and sensitive people. There are plenty of people who do, and have, supported gay rights who do not nevertheless feel that this requires them to support gay marriage. If advocates want something as deeply important as the total re-definition of marriage in the U.S., then why be afraid of open and intelligent discussion? Citizens of NY and of America have a right to have time to let their so-called representatives know where they stand on the entire issue what constitutes the basis and definition of marriage.

Vic Tanner
Vic Tanner

Some people think the world is actually older than 5,000 years, so marriage could be older than that. And some weirdos think that there may have been marriages in other parts of the world BEFORE the Abrahamic religions got there. Strange strange stuff. Anyway, you stated there were many reasons, then didn't bother to list them. Still waiting. 

Alvin McEwen
Alvin McEwen

"There are plenty of reasons to support marriage as a union of one man and one woman to form the building block of family. Marriage has a history of 3-5,000 years in the east and west and is embraced by the Bible, the Koran, the Torah and in any number of religious books, and by most societies."

But marriage was NOT a union which benefited a woman back then. I mean just how many wives were allowed by these religions?

DTLehman752
DTLehman752

Why do you quote the bible to spread a littany of hatred? Jesus, (The Savior you Claim to follow), told us to love one another. Open your Hearts and Minds. You have the right to your opinions, as do we all, but can you stop trying to be humanities JUDGE? I was always told that GOD alone would Judge us, and that He has the final word. Thank you for allowing me to express MY opinion.

Albrightflowers
Albrightflowers

 Date: 06/25/2011  This is seen coming for a long time; America was so eager to get it's self destroy. Now with a sure saying you gave the terrorist the weapon and said shoot us if you bad. Gay marriage; is a sure and quick destruction of this nation or to say any nation. In what ways; our teams will be defeated by any and all countries in any competition, in war there is a sure defeat and division with our buddies who goes to war. The children will lose their powers and will to learn. The economy will be in a constant decline motion, and most of all; God face will be against this nation every which way it turns. Today rejoicing is tomorrow crying because of defeated, pain, death, diseases, sorrow and lost of confident. I firmly condemn such action which is a direct stab at Jehovah throat for such: "ACT PASS IN NEW YORK CITY".   Witness: Jehovah, Jesus and the Holy Spirit                   Owner of all creation seen, and on seen Approved by: Mr. Newton  In service of all true witness above

laughriotgirl
laughriotgirl

"Gay marriage; is a sure and quick destruction of this nation or to say any nation. In what ways; our teams will be defeated by any and all countries in any competition, in war there is a sure defeat and division with our buddies who goes to war. The children will lose their powers and will to learn. The economy will be in a constant decline motion"

Right because the nations that have already recognized marriage equality are all totally going down the toilet... except the part where the Netherlands has one of the best economies in the world and it's population is among the best educated. The South African military is arguably the best trained army on the continent.

Iraq, where gay marriage is illegal, was defeated by a coalition that includes many nations that allow same-sex marriage...

so.. yeah.. all that stuff and people sleeping with snakes and conscripted children and other nonsense.. all of TOTALLY TRUE!!!

4714026
4714026

while on the one hand, we have to have compassion and pray for the sorry lawmakers who have let this law pass,   and the people who pushed it

but on the other hand, what they have done transcends typical personal sin

it is speading and promoting a kind of very serious moral rot in society, and involving children

perhaps instead of men marrying men, and women marrying women ---- and forcing their perversion onto youngsters who they conscript as their children ---- why don't you take the next step and inter-marry with animals

what you deserve is to be married to snakes and sleep with snakes in your beds

perhaps that would be as close as you can get to actually marrying Satan himself in this world

and you have already taken the deceiver as your partner

jana
jana

4714026, Are we really surprised by any of what's going on here? Did not the Bible say that these things would take place? God's Word is coming true at a truly rapid pace, and there will be even moe 'signs' to follow from here on out. Continue to pray for the Governor, Mayor, and all involved as God has told us to do, because He will eventually take care of all of what's going on and sadly at that time there will be NO rejoicing when it's all over. God and Jesus cares about them but they don't seeem to want or care about 'their' love.

Anon A
Anon A

Uh huh, right.  Just be sure to let us know when the world's going to end and the Rapture will come as a result of all this, OK?  After all, you folks have such a great track record at predicting that the End of Days is right around the corner.

Matthew J. Price
Matthew J. Price

"Uh huh, right.  Just be sure to let us know when the world's going to end and the Rapture will come as a result of all this, OK?  After all, you folks have such a great track record at predicting that the End of Days is right around the corner."

No kidding! After all the snake oil evangelicals(born-agains) have peddled since after the end of Reconstruction, their notion of 'faith' has become synonymous with retardation. The third grade reading level evidenced in many of their comments shows it.

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