Single Lady Brags About Using Match.com to Get Guys to Buy Her Dinner

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"Make dinner happen."
I wasn't going to write about this, but it started making me madder and madder, so here I am. Business Insider today writes of a woman named Jessica Sporty, who, at 23, was simply too poor on her $45K salary to take care of her $1,475 a month (ahem -- Murray Hill) apartment and also her extra $500 or $1000 in credit card bills, so, she took to Internet dating on Match.com to essentially get dudes to buy her dinner and keep her out of debt.

One million sighs. O.K., for the sake of the argument, let's just say this story is for real; that Sporty does not have some angle in publicizing it (like a book deal? A dating guide, mayhaps? A hilarious new rom-com?); and that we're going to give her some slight benefit of the doubt. New York is expensive, and Match.com is not, after all, known for its overall high caliber wonderful, charitable, always honest people. Not to specifically call out Match.com -- the INTERNET, in fact, is not known for always being the most moral playground, and yet, ironically, is known for railing on anyone who fails to meet our very high standards. And dating, in fact, is not known as a situation in which everyone behaves perfectly and wonderfully.

But a comment like this is just disgusting:

"Before I barely had enough money to pay for food," said Sporty. "After using Match.com I found I wasn't going into debt anymore."

Yeah, New York is expensive. Yeah, you have high standards and you want to, like, buy shoes and go out and have fun. Yeah, this is a hilarious little tale to share with your girlfriends, the way you would share tales of bad, hilarious dates. Men use women far more than women use men, that's the stereotype, right? And bankers "were thrilled to woo her with extraordinary restaurants like the underground taqueria La Esquina and a Japanese restaurant, Megu, in Tribeca. One guy even took her to a champagne bar and purchased a $200 bottle."

Ha ha. What a gas. Further, what an economic windfall:

Sporty went from easily spending $500 a month on dinners alone to having someone else dole out an average of $60-plus per night. She also stopped eating lunch and opted for a light breakfast to save even more.

Her roommates joined in, and, there were spreadsheets made, and well, now we have a trend story. Women who use men to feed them. How progressive. During the "experiment" the ladies "soon learned how prevalent the online dating scene had become in New York City."

Wow.

Sporty eventually gave up on the game and according to the story, has a boyfriend. But the problem with this is not with one girl, or even with a girl and her roommates. It's that there are actually people in New York City who do want to find each other and form some semblance of a good, honest, loving relationship. And people like Sporty make it that much harder for any of them -- any of us -- to trust each other. It's hard enough out there; we don't need this sort of crap that makes everyone suspicious and jaded and fraught with doubts and indecision. God, please say we're not this awful.

Can this be a lesson for good, somehow?

Update: Business Insider has retracted this woman's name and photo and is now calling her "Minerva McGonagall." They've also killed comments on the post, because "people were taking it waaaay too seriously," which makes us wonder why we are reading Business Insider at all. After all, they're the ones who brought this to our attention in the first place.

This Young Woman Scored $1,200 A Month In Fancy Dinners On Match.com [Business Insider]

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Jackson Kavendish
Jackson Kavendish

Sporty was just doing what they call "sporting", except she was getting chumps to pay meals instead of just for drinks. I never, EVER take a woman out for dinner unless a physical attraction has already been established, so I have no problem with what this smart gal is doing. Her story would make a great Lifetime movie, especially if she really fell for a guy who turned the tables on her and put her in her place, which is what she wanted all along.

Guest
Guest

I hope JK Rowling sues for copyright infringement.

Mhr105
Mhr105

She's a dog I would buy her a big mac if that....

Michael
Michael

I just watched an interview of her on Good Morning America. She claimed she didn't go out with all those men simply to get free meals; it just so happened that none of them asked her to split the check. She said if any had, she would have thought, Hmmm, that's not traditional, but she would have agreed. She later described herself as a traditional girl and thus expects the man to pay for the date.

So I can't say with certainty that she was deliberately running a scam. What I can say, though, is that her nose is quite asymmetrical and she applies her makeup with a trowel.

JP
JP

so what!?!?! Men go out on dates and if they get "the one thing" they want from a woman, they bail. They use women for their bodies never caring if they put women at risk for pregnancy or STDs as many of them treat 'protection' like an after-thought once the woman brings it up. And being used for your body (because he said all kinds of BS about liking you and wanting a relationship, etc) is waaay worse than being used for $60 or even $300. Thankfully, I realized around age 25 that all men want is to "chase skirts" so I dont even bother to date anymore. I'm 33 yrs old. I make good money, have an awesome body, I still model part-time,  have great friends (men & women) but I wont date any one. I have a toy and lots of C-batteries...so who needs a relationship anymore. In two years I'll adopt or go the artificial insemination route - so I'll have a kid and again, who needs a relationship? Weak people who are too afraid to be alone or just dont like themselves enough.

Internets
Internets

There are sugar daddy websites that are probably more effective if she wanted to make even more money.

Ottawa Rob
Ottawa Rob

No mention whether she was putting out for these dinner-buyers...if so, everyone wins

Guest
Guest

Her name is Jessica Sporty. She has a twitter which she has probably recently locked due to the shit storm raining down on her. 

You play with matches and you get burned. 

She's also essentially fucked for life now because regardless of whether or not business insider changed her name due to her probably calling up and crying, once you google her name this story pops up since it was run in multiple online publications. At least there's some justice in the world.

Pam
Pam

What stupid men would buy a stranger dinner! First dates are ALWAYS shared expenses almost everywhere in the world! New York men are not too bright! TRUE!

Anon A
Anon A

So Business Insider changed her name to an alias in the article, but her last name, "Sporty" is still in one of the paragraph headers.  Good job, guys.

ShellyMiscavige
ShellyMiscavige

$200 bottles of champagne?

Sounds like this lady was just scamming Wall Street bankers.

If that is the case then good luck to her.

If not - well, she's been named so the internet hate machine will do its thing.

Ain't karma a bitch?

aubriee
aubriee

my buddy's sister makes $72/hour on the laptop. She has been fired for 9 months but last month her paycheck was $8210 just working on the laptop for a few hours. Here's the site to read more... CashHard.cöm

Kyle0890
Kyle0890

Good for her , man have been taking advandage of woman for ever, now the shoe is on ther foot. I love and miss New York

Lisanne!
Lisanne!

If guys want to do that, what's the problem?

I assume these guys could afford it. And if they were being honest with themselves they probably didn't expect that every date they went on with this service would lead to a full time relationship.

Guest
Guest

I had a girlfriend who use to do the same thing before I met her. 

She was a worthless cunt too. 

Herrence Meritocracy
Herrence Meritocracy

Fun recession tips from Murray Hill, notable home of the coupon clippers and the downtrodden.

Devon S. Maloney
Devon S. Maloney

My favorite part of this is the implication that a $1,475/month apartment is, somehow, her only option. Sorry, baby, I pay less than half of that in rent and get by just fine. It's called a budget, honey.

Sakara
Sakara

sounds like some skank's book deal...one book deal; such skanks never get a second book deal from their skanking around.

bobbyjfromtheuk12
bobbyjfromtheuk12

Wow that's great you seem really well adjusted and not narcissistic at all!

Muhammad
Muhammad

You can't tar all men with that brush. Who knows how many of the men Ms. Sporty went out with actually were looking for a relationship.

Muhammad
Muhammad

she's been named so the internet hate machine will do its thing

Unfortunately, a quick glance at Google results shows that she's not the only one with her name.

Clarkle
Clarkle

You're buddies sister is actually working the streets.  She's on laps, not laptops.

Jonstonjohn
Jonstonjohn

u r deceived by socialism, u must be a communist and want families to break apart, and if u promote her wrong doing u must have been traumatized as a child

Clarkle
Clarkle

These poor saps are not looking for someone to buy dinner for, they are looking for a relationship.  If they wanted to feed someone, I'm sure they could find a homeless person that is way more deserving.

MrWorms
MrWorms

If she was being honest about it, sure.  Doesn't really sound like she was, which makes her a terrible person.  And the guys shouldn't expect that every date will lead to a full time relationship, but making guys pay for dates when she has absolutely no intention of being in a relationship at all is totally dishonest.

Guest
Guest

Its her motivations and pretense that is in dispute, not theirs. 

Anon
Anon

Murray Hill isn't that large.

Lisanne!
Lisanne!

If she acted in a manner that suggested more interest than one would exhibit on a first meeting I'd agree with you. But its not necessary to do that. Both parties are non committal at this stage anyway. Some people stay that way for a long time.

Keep in mind that was meeting a number of people this way. And apparently she eventually met someone she wanted to commit with.

Lisanne!
Lisanne!

Dating is always a pretense. It's the nature of the beast, you know

Tcook
Tcook

I just watched an interview of her on Good Morning America. The reporter said she didn't meet her boyfriend through Match.com.

Muhammad
Muhammad

I just saw an interview of her on Good Morning America. The reporter said she didn't meet her current boyfriend on Match.com.

Guest
Guest

The word "date" in the general sense, implies that she was interested in meeting a person in order to possibly enter a relationship with, not to use people in a cold and systematic way in order to get free food and a night out. 

Guest
Guest

But she wasnt looking to "date" anyone. This wasnt her intention from the get go so your statement is not applicable to her. She was looking for a dupe to buy her a free meal and that's it. Let me get this straight too; you're condonining her coniving, unconscionable, behavior? Is this some kind of feminist solidarity thing? Either way you've taken moral relativism to a completely new level.

She's essentially a predator. It's unfortunate she didnt wind up on a date with a serial killer.

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