Todd Remis, Divorced in 2010, Sues Photographer to Recreate 2003 Wedding

This statement in the New York Times makes me mad: "Of all the many things that make up a wedding, few are more important than the photographs." Perhaps the Times, writing of Manhattan man Todd Remis's lawsuit against H&H Photographers for missing the last 15 minutes, including the last dance and that horrible ritual, the bouquet toss, of his wedding in 2003, is being a bit tongue in cheek. Because Remis and his ex-wife, Milena Grzibovska, have since divorced, and Grzibovska is "believed to have moved back to her native Latvia."

But this is exactly the problem with weddings today: (Some) people think the photographs are more important, say, than the wedded couple actually making the right decision and, if they choose to wed, not being total assholes about their stupid photos. Anyway!

Remis sued 6 years after his 2003 wedding, in 2009, after the couple separated in 2008. And he wants something unusual: Not only $4,100, for the cost of the photography, but "he also wants $48,000 to recreate the entire wedding and fly the principals to New York so the celebration can be re-shot by another photographer."

The judge in the case seems to be aware that it's ludicrous, and has dismissed most grounds for the lawsuit, but is letting it go ahead to determine if there was a breach of contract.

"This is a case in which it appears that the 'misty watercolor memories' and the 'scattered pictures of the smiles ... left behind' at the wedding were more important than the real thing," the judge wrote. "Although the marriage did not last, plaintiff's fury over the quality of the photographs and video continued on."

As the Times says,

Long after the last of the cake has grown stale and the tossed bouquet has wilted, the photos endure, stirring memories and providing vivid proof that the day of one's dreams took place.

Right. Get those damn photos. Photos or none of it happened. Which, truly, might have been preferable in this case. Perhaps the worst aspect of this charade is that the wedding guests from 2003 (assuming they count as principals -- after all, they gave gifts, right?) would actually be expected to attend this thing again. For the photos, of course.

Enlightening is the fact that Remis has been unemployed since 2008, which, thank God, because otherwise how would have have time to do all this work? Dear Mr. Remis: Please, stop suing and get out there and date, if you can find a woman who hasn't heard this story yet! You've got to move on. For all of us.

H&H has spent $50,000 so far in legal costs.

Years Later, Lawsuit Seeks to Recreate a Wedding [NYT via Pat's Papers]

[JDoll / @thisisjendoll]

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Such a joke. Remis got ripped off and the photographer will get away and keep his money. That lying freed said he was a Holocaust survivor. Why even bring that up????? First, he was not a survivor, second, what is he looking for but to smear Remis. Screw H and H for the shit job they did!!!

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Seems appropriate to me... Particularly if the photographer dawdled when it came to delivering the photographs.

If you can't pay attention to what is going on, then perhaps you should consider landscape photography. Mountains don't move, you can always come back and re-take your shots and mountains never sue you...

Good advice for all and something I do myself...


(To the entire audience here:) Do you believe everything you read in papers and see of TV? Complete lies. Diversion/­defensive and smearing tactic by H&H. We know for fact, from couple directly when they were still married (in 2005 - 2007 timeframe)­, that no photos or videos were ever received from photograph­er and photograph­er was unable or refused or avoided to deliver them after repeated attempts to get them. The proofs looked horrible - colors and dark/light all messed up. They clearly messed up the film/video­s or processing of them. NOTE: the legal documents say nothing about money for re-shootin­g wedding and it was never brought up or requested by the plaintiff (or ever a thought in their minds). And attempts to get photos, money back, etc. from H&H began WAY before divorce. This was all already in progress well before the couple even discussed divorce. All lies. Not a case of abuse of the legal system, but rather a case of abuse of (and by) the press. These are facts. Please turn your focus on proper question at hand - how would you feel if your wedding photograph­er messed up the processing of your photos, was unable to produce quality images and then avoided you and ran with your money and then as a final defensive/­diversion tactic started a smear campaign that threatens to destroy your reputation­?


Todd please if you are reading this, pack it up and leave it!!  No good will come.  $48,000 to re create fake moments is ridiculous and I'm sure your family and friends think so as well.  You are trying to assign blame and financial responsibility for any reason you can think of.That bouquet toss picture would not have saved your marriage and nor do I think you are so devasted by lost memories, point're not even sure when your ex-wife is.  You believe she has returned to Lativia.  Good.  Move on.  Hopefully you will meet another beautiful bride and you can decide where to take your business, not that H&H Photography would ever in their right minds take you as a client............Some how I don't believe this is about missed moments and memories and if you were standing in front of me I'd say it to your face.  You Are What's Wrong With Our Country! People like you Todd will never get tired of slinging bullsh@%.  Our judicial systems are clogged of this non sense.  You use up resources and time that would benefit someone that really needs it and for real injustices.  Including the Honorable Judge's time and intellegence!  And this is not what he get's paid for.  I'm sure he won't sleep better at night when this is all over knowing he gave justice to the lost memory of the flower toss and nor will you sleep better.  Throw this case out and get some help.  And If there is any shred of honor in you reimburse H&H Photography the $50,000 they had to spend because of your toddler like temper tantrum.  What in the world do you need these photos for now?  I am in no way affiliated nor ever heard of H&H Photography so you can throw that out of your head and take this for what it really is...a third party and tough love advice.Sincerely,Elle C. from Pa

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