Jesse Friedman: The Interview

Categories: Justice

FriedmanCover.jpg
This week's cover story tells the story of Jesse Friedman, who in 1987, as a teenager, was caught up in a public hysteria built on suspicions that he and his father had sexually abused the nine- and 10-year-old students who attended the computer classes they taught in their home. Friedman was railroaded into a guilty plea, and served 13 years in prison.

Now, a new report, expected any day from the Nassau County District Attorney's office and based on new evidence, could vacate his conviction and clear his name.

Friedman and his wife, Elisabeth Walsh, spoke to the Voice for three hours in their Bridgeport home on May 11. What follows is that interview, edited for clarity and length.

You're awaiting a report from the office of Nassau County District Attorney Kathleen Rice that could clear your name. What would that mean for how you live your life?

Friedman: As soon as Kathy Rice decides to announce that the guilty plea was coerced and there's a reasonable likelihood that I was wrongfully convicted, the conviction is gone, the charges are dismissed, the sex offender registration vanishes, and it all goes back to zero. I still have to dwell with the notion that I don't think I'm ever going to be fully anonymous. As much as I would no longer be a registered sex offender, I don't know how much I will ever be just an anonymous citizen. I'm always going to be the guy from that movie who was falsely accused of child molestation.

Are you feeling confident about what the District Attorney's report will say?

Friedman: I am freakishly optimistic. Most of my life I have always been the pessimist in any room. But I know how much exonerating evidence has been presented to the District Attorney's office. We have proven that the guilty plea was coerced, that the crimes never occurred, that the children lied, that there was gross police misconduct, there was gross prosecutorial misconduct, that there was rampant hysteria--we have proven all of these things. Whether or not the DA is going to play a political game with this or not, I don't know, but I'm optimistic about the outcome because for Kathy Rice to not find in favor of vacating the conviction, I can't even imagine the types of contortion she'd have to do with the truth in order to justify it.

FriedmanWalsh.jpg
Willie Davis
Friedman and Walsh in their Bridgeport home.
You mentioned the evidence that's come to light in the past 10 years. One of the biggest recent pieces of new evidence was your high school friend Ross Goldstein coming forward to say his testimony against you 25 years ago was false. Have you spoken to Ross since you were both indicted?

Friedman: I certainly tried to be in touch with Ross a number of times over the years, and I never knew if any of that communication was successful or not because I never heard back from him. But prior to 2001, I had to always understand that as far as Ross Goldstein knew, my father and I were child molesters, while he knew that he had nothing to do with any wrongdoing. He had no way of knowing about anything else that didn't involve him; my father and me were arrested months before Ross's name got dragged into this, and he saw my father plead guilty. He knew he didn't do anything wrong, he knew the police were absolutely corrupt, he knew he was being framed.

It's very easy for me to understand that the same way my lawyer and my mother came to me and said, "It really doesn't matter what did and didn't happen, it doesn't matter that you're innocent. You cannot possibly consider the possibility of going to trial--you'll spend the rest of your life in prison," I'm sure that's the same thing that Ross's lawyer and Ross's mother told him. "How can you--you can't sit trial as a co-defendant with these admitted child molesters down the block?"

For Ross, it was a long time ago. He had long since moved on with his life; he didn't want to get involved in any of this all over again. So for the longest time, Ross was kind of silent for understandable reasons.

How did you and Ross know each other?

Friedman: He was a year behind me in high school, and the last time I saw him would have been when I graduated from high school. That would have been the last time I had any contact from him. We were friends because he happens to be a magnificent guitar player. He was a fantastic guitar player in high school, and I'm sure today he's even more so, and while I was in high school, one of the teachers there got funding to build an 8-track recording studio at the school, which I was very much involved with putting that together. Ross is a magnificent guitar player, and we spent a lot of time together in the recording studio, and that was basically how we became friendly. We were never best friends, but it was a small small school, and it was mostly the recording studio that was the majority of our time spent together.

My shock and surprise when he was arrested is unmeasurable. When they arrested Ross, and that made absolutely no sense to me. How they could have placed him at the scene of the crime, or how they could have gotten a witness to identify him seemed implausible. That whole aspect of the case is out of the Twilight Zone to me. The police weren't really looking for actual suspects. They were never investigating an actual crime. It still doesn't really make any sense, except for the fact that they weren't looking for real suspects, they were looking for someone to testify against me. That's what they were looking for. They were looking for a patsy.

So like I said, I tried many times to reach out to him, and he always eluded me. And I guess it was probably about a year ago, I sent an email, and I didn't get a reply from the email, and I called him. And he picked up the phone. I said, "It's Jesse Friedman," and he didn't hang up on me. We talked for a little bit, and I said, "We should talk about stuff. We have this shared experience, you know?"

We got together: We met at a diner in Astoria; he brought his girlfriend along, Elisabeth came along. We talked for hours at the diner, we had a good talk. We didn't talk about everything, but I think I was able to give Ross an opportunity to ask me some things. I'd rather not get into too many specifics, because Ross has his own story to tell. A lot of it was very innocuous stuff. And I don't think it was really so much what my answers were, it was just very obvious to him about who I was, where I was coming from, that I wasn't trying to get rich and famous, I wasn't trying to force him into some position where I needed him to say this, or I needed him to play some role to play and he was obligated to come forward and exonerate me. I went to him and just said, "We should just talk. I mean, shouldn't we just talk?" And I think it had quite an effect on him because I didn't come with any agenda to the dinner.

What do you think about the young students--now adults--who testified against you in the grand jury?

Friedman: That's extremely complicated. I've never held any grudge or animosity toward them personally. It's always been very obvious to me that they were incredibly young and it was the police and the therapists who were basically being abusive towards nine-, 10-year-old kids, in some instances outright brainwashing them, in other instances convincing them that they were sexually abused when they weren't. I don't think any of those kids set out to intentionally tell lies about me and send me to prison, and the more conversations that have been had over the years with more of the complainants, it's becoming even more obvious that it's not so much that they have necessarily gone through the last 25 years with a sense of feeling like they lied to the police and sent an innocent man to prison.

I've never been shy about a position that says "I am not afraid of any of the complainants or anybody from the computer classes coming forward and talking about what they remember from the computer classes." I know that nobody was sexually abused in the computer classes. My position is, I am not afraid of somebody coming forward at all. Because they're either going to come forward and tell the truth that nothing happened, or they're going to come forward and they're going to say what so many other people said: "Look, I don't know what I did or didn't say when I was a kid, but that's not what happened, that's not what I remember, I was never raped or sodomized," or they might come forward with stories as absolutely ridiculous and implausible as Gregory Doe's. I've never been afraid of a credible accusation against me because there's never been a credible accusation against me. But I have really always felt very badly for what most particularly the complainants were put through by the police and the therapists.

When I was in prison, my hope always hung on the idea that, give it five or 10 years; once they get to college, once they're actual adults, once they're old enough to no longer be living at home with their parents in Great Neck, they will come forward and admit that they lied. When [journalist] Debbie Nathan came to visit me, she told me that most of the complainants in the McMartin case [a similar sex-ring hysteria case in Texas] publicly affirm that they were raped and abused in the McMartin preschool. Whereas that case has been thoroughly, completely vetted beyond all doubt that nothing happened. And yet the kids involved believe that they were abused. She said, "You really can't hang your hopes on the idea that the kids know that they lied and that nothing happened. Because they might very well think that something happened." That was horrifying for me. And it's still kind of horrifying for me to think that any of those kids still believe that they were sexually abused. Because I know it didn't happen.

Between the hypnosis and the therapy and the pressure from parents and police and prosecutors, I guess it's not surprising that some of the children eventually said what they thought people wanted to hear.

Friedman: When adults start to tell you that your own memories aren't what you think they are, you start to lose touch with what is a real memory and what isn't. And it's really sad. I think it's really sad. Ever since Capturing the Friedmans came out I've been trying to offer this olive branch of truth whenever I had the opportunity to do so: "While I know that some of you have grown up believing that you were sexually abused, I know it's not true, and there's healing. There's an opportunity for healing here." This isn't just about me. This isn't at all just about me. And it's not even just about me and the complainants. But it's their parents, and all of the guilt that they had to deal with, that they thought they sent their children off into harm's way and didn't protect them. The hundreds of people who were in the computer classes and didn't become complainants, and they don't know what did and didn't happen. The police hurt so many people and traumatized the entire community, and a lot of times I sort of feel like I'm like the last standing eyewitness to a horrible massacre. I'm the only one who survived who can tell the tale.


My Voice Nation Help
0 comments

Now Trending

From the Vault

 

Loading...