Jessica Massa and Rebecca Wiegand, the ladies behind WTF Is Up with My Love Life? and The Gaggle, have talked to us before about how the dating landscape ain't just changing. Rather, they claim that it's outright dead.

But Massa and Wiegand aren't wasting good mascara crying about modern romance.

They recently held a funeral for dating, and have given us an exclusive sneak peak of the vid chronicling the event (the embed is at the top of the page!)

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Gentleman: Lock up your daughters, sisters, and wives!

And ladies: Thank the Internet for Dillon Casey, and start lining up to meet this keyboard Casanova.

This smooth-typing panty dropper/actor has publicly posted his relationship resume online, and he's asking you to Tweet him if you're interested!

The self-professed "nerd in a jocks body" ("that's why I'm always beating myself up") is looking for a"fun girl with a great sense of humor. It doesn't have to be anything serious, but if something happens organically then hey - that's just great! I'm open to casual dating and physical experimentation as well (with the opposite sex). This includes having two or more partners at the same time, however I cannot guarantee satisfaction for all parties involved."

Meow!

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It's Wednesday. Have you read Dan's new column yet?

In this week's Savage Love, Dan answers questions on gay dating, co-habitation, and woman-pleasing -- you know, pretty standard stuff for a sex column.

Now, I like and respect Savage's work a lot. That said, I'm not entirely sold on several bits of advice he offers up in this edition: There's too much talk about masturbation and not enough about oral sex.

Allow me to explain.

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Dating is dead -- so say Jessica Massa and Rebecca Wiegand. They say that dating doesn't lead to love like it reportedly did in the past -- instead, Massa and Wiegand say, women nowadays just have men informally orbiting them, and it's up to us female folk to take the relationships where we want them.

Their ideas stem from their stint as roommates in Brooklyn. The pals -- apparently BFFs since age 12 -- decided that they should reexamine America's romantic landscape instead of lamenting their love lives. So they launched WTF Is Up With MY Love Life?! a few years ago, a website aimed at "redefining romance and dating for the modern generation," Massa told us.

That project, which included countless countrywide interviews, morphed into a movie optioned by New Line Cinemas. That then turned into a book, The Gaggle , which came out yesterday, and stands poised to become the next big ladybook. (Massa authored the book, but both co-created the project.)

So what the hell is a gaggle, anyway?

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Should you be one of those people who assumes that your dating "issues" in the city stem from the fact that there are fewer men than women here, there's a map for that, and, no, we're not saying you have issues. But there is an interesting new twist. Economists at the NYCEDC ran the numbers, and, according to the latest census data, New York City's population is 53% female and 47% male. But, of unmarried singles between 20 and 34, men actually outnumbered women, 742,400 to 729,500. As for people over 34, they are geriatrics too old for love and unworthy of acknowledgment.

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In preparation for a Valentine's Day event (a "Love-in-Transit Party," to be specific), at which the New York Times' Alan Feuer will read poems based on Missed Connections and Sophie Blackall of Missed Connections illustration fame will sign copies of her book, the gossip-hungry MTA is seeking tales of your transit romance. "Did you find love on a bus? Feel your heart race on a subway? Make shy eye contact on the evening commuter train?" Get in touch and tell them! If you did anything more graphic, obscene, or animalistic, tell us!

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Have you heard!? In the first notable time since October-snow, there is supposed to be white stuff on the ground, flakes in the sky, frozen precipitation swirling about our nubile bodies and landing on our rosy cheeks and making everything look temporarily clean and crisp and pure, denoting absolutely perfect weather conditions for boyfriend hunting. It may happen as soon as tonight. Gird your loins, gird your girdle. Wear a hat. Your Winter Weather Watch is on.

As with any change in weather, a change in the usual life norms is in order. All bets are off. This is how to make it work for you.

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How do you date successfully? Some might say it's only when you stop dating, a/k/a, find someone and settle down, or whatever people do. Others might say that it's as simple as going on a good date, or learning something from the experience, even if it's bad. Free-living caddish types and those who adore them may pin it all on sex. Now science has decided to ponder this question with a focus on online dating, and we thank them, in part because their findings can help us justify our oft maligned behaviors. "According to Drexel researchers, marriage isn't the only measure of success among people looking for love in cyberspace." Oh no?

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It's that time of year when we dredge up old stats and check them again! And in so doing, we can confirm, via Census data and the New York Post, that women outnumber men in the city "by 52.5 to 47.5 percent," translating to 410,045 more women then men overall, and nearly 10 percent more women than men among 25- to 29-year-olds. This, says the Post, echoing many, gives "scientific evidence" to the age-old moan and groan that you can't find a good man in this city, which, paradoxically, they dub "a man's city." Earlier this year I wrote some words on the subject; you can read all that here, but the subject seems worthy of some new discussion.

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Remember Jessica Sporty? She is the enterprising Murray Hill twentysomething written about in November by Business Insider, which first published her name, after which it was picked up by various media outlets (us included); then changed it to another, similar name; and then changed it again, to the name of a Harry Potter character with the note "We have changed the name of the woman in the story because people were taking it waaaay too seriously." Because, briefly, the internet had been set aflame by Sporty, who confessed to using Match.com to get guys to buy her dinner, a financial plan that made her $1,200 a month. So sated by dinners provided by the funds of strangers that she had no interest in actually taking seriously as romantic propositions, this became a full-fledged gambit involving roommates and spreadsheets and other machinations. More »