The past week has been a big one for thinking and talking about marriage. At the same time as the nation has been gripped in the same-sex marriage debate, another conversation has been playing out on the sidelines--not about who people should marry, but when.
The chatter started at the end of last week, when Princeton alumna Susan Patton wrote an open letter to The Daily Princetonian urging female students to find a husband on campus before graduating. She wanted to tell "the daughters I never had" what she wished she could have said: "Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out," she wrote, "Here's what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate." It wasn't surprising that Patton's "excruciatingly retro understanding of relationships," as Maureen O'Connor put it in The Cut, was met with a firestorm of criticism. The Daily Princetonian has since removed the letter from its website.