Another week, another brilliant, thoughtful, nuanced New York Post story about a prominent woman. This week it was their front-page headline about how Chirlane McCray was a "bad mom" for not wanting to spend every second with baby Chiara. McCray talked to New York magazine about how, as a later in life first-time mother, she struggled to switch gears: "I could not spend every day with her," she told the magazine. "I didn't want to do that. I looked for all kinds of reason not to do it. I love her. I have thousands of photos of her--every 1-month birthday, 2-month birthday. But I've been working since I was 14, and that part of me is me. It took a long time for me to get into 'I'm taking care of kids,' and what that means."
In their writeup, the Post's Bruce Golding boiled that down to McCray "neglecting" Chiara, who, he notes, went into treatment for substance abuse 18 years later. Coincidence? Or bad mom-ing?
By now, of course, that Golding story has been roundly raged about and mocked and thoughtfully analyzed every which way. But maybe the New York Post is right. Maybe all of us, not just Chirlane, are doing it wrong. As mothers. As wives. As women. Instead of continually messing up your life, why not just relax and let the Post tell you how to behave? Much like wandering out into the snow to die, it only feels cold at first. A few helpful hints:More »